A Girl’s Gotta Do What A Girl’s Gotta Do by Kathleen Baty (a book review of sorts)
I recently checked out a book about safety, self-defense etc. for my daughter. Well possibly for her, I wanted to look it over first. I didn’t tell her. I just brought it home. I read part of it and found it very interesting, then I left it on the shelf to come back to later.
The following day, my daughter said, “I found the book you got for me.”
“Huh? How did you know that was for you?”
She rolled her eyes. “It was obvious.”
“So do you like it?”
“Yeah, it’s great. I read the first chapter about how to be safe in hotels, and then I started thinking, ‘this probably isn’t the best thing to read before going to bed. I might have nightmares.’ So I skipped to the back of the book and read the part about self-defense so that if I did have a nightmare I could defend myself.”
The point of the book is not to scare young women, but to help them be more savy, aware, and safe. Isn’t that what we all want for our daughters.
I thought, “You mean the story I have intentionally avoided because I know it has something to do with cannibalism any kind of violence is pretty triggering for me right now. The same story that I would never have wanted YOU to read or be aware of?” But she did know about it. I just nodded.
So we can’t shelter them…
I have to share a story from my job. I work in a residential treatment center for teenage sex offenders.
One morning as the boys were getting ready for school, one of them told me how he had gone on pass, the day before. He went to church and met a girl. They hit it off, and she asked for his phone number. He laughed as he told me, “I didn’t know what to say. I couldn’t give her the number here.” The residents do not have cell phones.
He was quite pleased with himself, and reminded me of any other teenage boy I have known talking about girls…with one big difference. He is a registered sex offender. Later I thought about this conversation and wondered if this girl’s parents had any idea WHOM she was talking to at church.
So yes, I decided I want my daughter to read this book. I want her to be savy, aware and safe.