Monday Mitzvahs: Should Your Neighbor Be Worried?

We interrupt your regularly scheduled blog post, for this special announcement!

Today I am guest posting at a Till He Comes.  This is a blog I recently discovered, and I have enjoyed all the posts I read so far.   If you would like to read my post, Living Water, and many other great posts, c’mon over.  

If you are visiting from there, welcome! You can read more of my spiritually themed posts, by scrolling down and clicking on “spiritual” in tag cloud in the right-hand column.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled blog post: Monday Mitzvahs!

One of my all time favorite quotes is:

“Wo unto the neighbor of the man who loves his neighbor as himself, when he hates himself.”

Should your neighbor be worried?

I’m listening to yet another book by Brene Brown (because she really is that amazing,) and she’s got me thinking about self-compassion and self-kindness.

Photo by Maya Elaine
Photo by Maya Elaine

In our efforts to do small acts of kindness, are we excluding ourselves?

This reminds me of something that happened in a women’s class at church several years ago. We were talking about marriage and I raised my hand and said, “If we aren’t kind to our husbands, who will be?”

I was surprised when everyone laughed until I figured out the misunderstanding that had occurred.  You can guess what they thought I meant, right?  But what I really meant was: the world can be harsh and competitive.  Hopefully, our spouses can come home and feel like that is one place they don’t have to compete, or be anyone/anything other than their true selves.

We could take this a little farther and ask if we aren’t patient with our own faults and short-comings, who will be?  Who else knows better than we do, how hard we try?  Ok, God does, but I’m mean other people.

So how about a small act of kindness for yourself?  The next time you feel inclined to judge yourself harshly, stop–take a moment and ask yourself if you would talk to your child or your best friend that way.  If you wouldn’t say it to a child or a friend–don’t say it to yourself.

For another small act of kindness, visit the Dr. Kristin Neff’s website about Self-compassion  There you can do a test to see how compassionate you are (the link is in the column on the right hand side) or listen to her TED talks, and many other things.

Go ahead, be kind to yourself—your neighbor might thank you!


Monday Mitzvah’s were inspired by Linda Cohen.  Check out her page HERE  or read her book 1000 Mitzvah’s


  1. Great article, Leslie!

    Yes, I believe that the intention of the commandment was to cause us to be as kind as possible to ourselves so that we would be all the more kind to our neighbors. That means being proper disciplining. Errors are still errors but “condemn not” yourself is the first order of business.

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