Monday Mitzvahs: Time Out for Grieving

My grandmother, my aunt and my mom

Dear Friends, My mom passed away on Saturday.  She had been in the hospital since Father’s Day.  She had been moved out of ICU into a regular bed. So we thought she was getting better.

Because my relationship with my mom was complicated, my grieving is complicated also.  I think someday I will write about “complicated grieving”, but I’ll hold off for now.   Since I’m not ready to write about that, and honestly can’t focus on much else, instead of my regular mitzvah I’ve gathered a couple links for you.

First here is a link to a great article  Supporting a Grieving Person

Here’s a “Monday Mitzvah” post–sort of–from Linda Cohen, the woman that inspired my Monday Mitzvahs.  This is particularly appropriate today because Linda started doing mitzvahs to celebrate her father after his death.

So now it is your turn.  For your mitzvah today, I would love it if you leave me a comment.  Just say “I’m here, listening.” or say hello.  Tell me how you found my blog, or share something that helped you with grieving.  Whatever works for you.  Go . . .


  1. Leslie

    My thoughts are with you
    I am sad your Mom’s gone

    Loves confusing joy
    Is present in your loss

    My condolences dear friend
    I hear your pain


  2. Hi,

    Grief for me/us is very complex, too.

    Am here, listening any time you need or want. There are no rights/wrongs in how you manage this loss. Its ok to feel whatever feelings are there.
    I found your blog after you found mine and love your style of writing. You are courageous, kind, strong and an all round pretty amazing woman. Thank you for all you share with us.

    Sending safe hugs your way, if wanted.

  3. A surprise death is the most troubling of all. Except when we see death coming and are able to whisper those “last rites” of our own, we always have those few things left to say. The good news is that the dead are not dead but are here beside us. And they are wonderfully more able to hear than ever in life. God bless you with comfort followed by great peace.

  4. No matter what the “mother experience” has been like, we grieve because she was our mother – the giver of our birth after holding us for the first nine months of our life in the closest inner relationship a person can have. I can only help you cry while you allow Jesus to hold you safely and tenderly.

  5. I’m sorry for your loss. I look forward to hearing about complicated grieving. I’m learning so much from your experiences! Thank you for having the courage to share them.

  6. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you know it’s okay to have complicated feelings about this situation. I love you!!!

  7. So sorry to hear about your loss and touched that you have been inspired by my Monday Mitzvahs. Wishing you solace and comfort as you move through your own grief. In peace, Linda

  8. I’m definitely listening and I am here. I’ve been in this situation,and it’s only been a couple of years.Don’t hesitate if you need or want anything. Sending comfort…

  9. Baruch Dayan Emet! Please accept my deepest sympathies. Remember that all your feelings are valid around this event so let no one tell you the “right” way to grieve or how you “ought” to be feeling.

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